There are two groups of people whose company I completely enjoy - The young and innocent & the elderly and wise. The young and innocent brings so much knowledge, joy, and comfort from the simplicity of their perception. The elderly and wise gives you determination, wisdom, and hope from their perserverance, victories and failures. Both groups will inevitably produce a balance in one's life. Hence the need to occasionally surround oneself with either groups should be highly recommended.
The young and innocent is when it all begins - the beginning; the elderly and wise is where it all ends - the ending. In between the two is the experimental stages - the middle. It is during these stages that one's world is introduce to the three factors of life - what if, I wish, and I hope not. These factors may cause a dramatic, soul searching, never ending, boring, exciting, and frustrating journey. Nonetheless, in each stage, one may be given many chances. The chances are designed to help one realize or understand what the hell they're doing. Of course some of us are less fortunate than others. One group may run out of chances and never have a chance to fix or improve their ending. Game Over! No Credit!....
Meanwhile the other group may stack up on chances and have a decent or outstanding ending...Continue! Add credit (younger generation usually picks up where they left off).
It is unfortunate that sometimes we waste our chances with the choices we make in this game called life. We all know we can't get another chance until we've gone through an entire level and accumulated enough golden points (good behavior/kind acts).
Keep in mind, when we enter this world, we begin to explore with a clean mind while we are naturally wrapped in the blanket of our inherited traits. As we grow, we consider our personality and environment. Simultaneously, the three factors of life roam around, in and out of our lives. They become a part of us, and we sometimes make our best and worst decisions based on a factor of life - a state of mind. At this rate, how long do you think one will last in this game called life?
Monday, October 31, 2011
Friday, October 14, 2011
Naked Truth vs Sugar Coated Truth
So I asked her - "would you rather the naked truth or sugar coated truth?" She quickly answered and said "naked truth..." then hesitated, "wait....sugar coated truth from my significant other, and naked truth from my friends." I raised my eyebrows and looked at her as if she wasn't so sure of her answer, and apparently she wasn't. She went on to say, "ok...it depends. For example, asking my honey do i look fat in this dress, I sure don't wanna hear the naked truth, but if its something really serious like something I need to work on, then yes, give it to me raw."
"O yea, raw?...you sure you can handle that?" I said with a smirk....we laughed at my attempt to be flirtatious. Saved by the bell....one of our co-workers asked "what's so funny?" We backtracked and asked the question....others joined the conversation. At the end, the majority preferred the naked truth from their closed friends than a significant other. Their conclusion was that the naked truth hurts more from the one you've given your all to in so many ways....it strikes a chord within you that can cause you to fall apart. In some cases one may shut down or build invisible walls around them for emotional protection, and they become defensive by pointing the finger at each other. But isn't it human nature to get defensive when we feel under attack? So i think whether its coming from a friend or lover, if you feel belittled or judged, you will fight back with some sharp words. Period.
I think, firstly, it all depends on how the naked truth is delivered. Secondly, it also depends on the closeness(or history) you share with that person(friend or lover). The naked truth is the only truth that can help you see things the way they are. Period. Sugar coated truth is something that can be manipulated to make you believe whatever, or make you not see what you need to see. For example, if one day you came to work and you were having a bad hair day, and you've announced it (whether you verbally said it or your facial expression said it all) then I'd leave it alone. But if that day, you came to work and you were trying some new look, and you came in with a new look attitude, but the new look is not working for you. As a friend, I'll let you know, and say "honey, I think I see what you were trying to do, but it didn't quite make it." crack some jokes, and keep it moving. Naturally, the naked truth is sometimes based on the kind of interaction you have with each other. Delivery is key.
Bottomline, the naked truth is best. I'd rather the naked truth vs sugar coated truth. But if you deliver it to me the wrong way, then trust and believe you will hear a whole lot of naked truth about yourself.....LOL! But seriously, the naked truth helps you grow, figure shit out, and become stronger as you digest the truth. Now, if you wanna know all kinds of truth....you on your own buddy. I just want the truth that's gonna help me improve as a person......Period.
Would you rather the naked truth or sugar coated truth?
"O yea, raw?...you sure you can handle that?" I said with a smirk....we laughed at my attempt to be flirtatious. Saved by the bell....one of our co-workers asked "what's so funny?" We backtracked and asked the question....others joined the conversation. At the end, the majority preferred the naked truth from their closed friends than a significant other. Their conclusion was that the naked truth hurts more from the one you've given your all to in so many ways....it strikes a chord within you that can cause you to fall apart. In some cases one may shut down or build invisible walls around them for emotional protection, and they become defensive by pointing the finger at each other. But isn't it human nature to get defensive when we feel under attack? So i think whether its coming from a friend or lover, if you feel belittled or judged, you will fight back with some sharp words. Period.
I think, firstly, it all depends on how the naked truth is delivered. Secondly, it also depends on the closeness(or history) you share with that person(friend or lover). The naked truth is the only truth that can help you see things the way they are. Period. Sugar coated truth is something that can be manipulated to make you believe whatever, or make you not see what you need to see. For example, if one day you came to work and you were having a bad hair day, and you've announced it (whether you verbally said it or your facial expression said it all) then I'd leave it alone. But if that day, you came to work and you were trying some new look, and you came in with a new look attitude, but the new look is not working for you. As a friend, I'll let you know, and say "honey, I think I see what you were trying to do, but it didn't quite make it." crack some jokes, and keep it moving. Naturally, the naked truth is sometimes based on the kind of interaction you have with each other. Delivery is key.
Bottomline, the naked truth is best. I'd rather the naked truth vs sugar coated truth. But if you deliver it to me the wrong way, then trust and believe you will hear a whole lot of naked truth about yourself.....LOL! But seriously, the naked truth helps you grow, figure shit out, and become stronger as you digest the truth. Now, if you wanna know all kinds of truth....you on your own buddy. I just want the truth that's gonna help me improve as a person......Period.
Would you rather the naked truth or sugar coated truth?
Mind Games = Dead Ends
Some people may believe there was a time the men population endlessly played mind games to catch as many "preys" they can. They would show off and feed their ego by bragging about the number of preys they've caught or have to play with. Nowadays, men and women have joined together to play useless mind games. I can only imagine how chaotic it must be in the dating scene. It seems that the code is to be open-minded, express your freedom, and explore. And of course that code is based on a person's perception. It also seems that no one knows the role they play, or who's who. Everybody liking everything and each other sounds appealing to the mindset of "you only live once, live it up to the fullest." As a result, you have a female messing around with a dude who's messing around with another dude, and that dude is married to a female who's messing around with another female, and that female is messing around with dudes and females.....woo wee, i guess sharing is caring....Sike! you can keep that dating scene to yourself pimps and pimpettes.
I know we all had our share in "the game", but things are different now. You only live once, and live it up to the fullest should be used for other experiences that help one to grow and influence the world in a positive way. Yeah, that shit sounds corny to a horny 18 or 23 year old, but when your ass gets older, your regrets will make you age quicker.
Its a known fact we live in a very selfish environment. Period. Everyone is for self. What makes ME feel good. What makes ME look good. What makes ME be the next one on top. And some people will do whatever it takes to get what they feel belongs to them. But the crazy thing about that is selfish people are always looking for something or someone that will help them hide....granted, while hiding, some try to discover their good qualities, and understand how to love, and want to do better. Some try to create an illusion to keep them "normal". Meanwhile others walk around wearing these "costumes" and succeed to fool many. Some wear the costume of confidence, generosity, loyalty, security, and power. Then they head out and go hunting for their next victim or activity to satisfy SELF.
Women use their manipulative ways to get what they want from a man; and men use their sexual ways to satisfy their appetite and simultaneously show or prove they have some type of control over a woman. So far, from what I've heard, women are ahead of the game. I'm just on the sideline clapping for the females who got their shit in order.....not just a mind game master, but a no non-sense chick (NNC). She's been there done that, but bounced back and kept it moving while your ass just stood there watching her ass walking away. Ego.....checked. Balls.....crushed. LOL. Fuuuuunnny. Anyway, back to what I was saying.....
As the players of the mind games continue to play, they will sometimes face the inevitable - a dead end. Imagine if you're playing a sport that requires you to think of your next move in order to score. Now imagine you're playing this sport non-stop, and you can't take too many breaks because you will get stomped on. You have to keep up to keep scoring. Eventually, your ass will run out of everything. You not gonna have a damn thing to offer anymore. "Anything done under the sun has already been done"....duh! All the tricks you've used to score are old. Shit....your ass old! You gonna need to sit your ass down and look around you. Then you'll realize, all the other mind gamers have gone their own way. Some to be old like you and continue with their old fuckeries. Otlhers will eventually stop playing mind games and settle down with love or without love....as long they're not alone, they're ok.
Bottomline, mind games are a waste of time. They will bring you some sexual escapades, some thrills, some drama, some STDs, some abortions, some sleeping/prescription pills, and some more stuff that will eventually wear you out. Mmmmmm....interesting...I don't see anything positive in these games, but yet, we still play the damn thing. Smdh.
I know we all had our share in "the game", but things are different now. You only live once, and live it up to the fullest should be used for other experiences that help one to grow and influence the world in a positive way. Yeah, that shit sounds corny to a horny 18 or 23 year old, but when your ass gets older, your regrets will make you age quicker.
Its a known fact we live in a very selfish environment. Period. Everyone is for self. What makes ME feel good. What makes ME look good. What makes ME be the next one on top. And some people will do whatever it takes to get what they feel belongs to them. But the crazy thing about that is selfish people are always looking for something or someone that will help them hide....granted, while hiding, some try to discover their good qualities, and understand how to love, and want to do better. Some try to create an illusion to keep them "normal". Meanwhile others walk around wearing these "costumes" and succeed to fool many. Some wear the costume of confidence, generosity, loyalty, security, and power. Then they head out and go hunting for their next victim or activity to satisfy SELF.
Women use their manipulative ways to get what they want from a man; and men use their sexual ways to satisfy their appetite and simultaneously show or prove they have some type of control over a woman. So far, from what I've heard, women are ahead of the game. I'm just on the sideline clapping for the females who got their shit in order.....not just a mind game master, but a no non-sense chick (NNC). She's been there done that, but bounced back and kept it moving while your ass just stood there watching her ass walking away. Ego.....checked. Balls.....crushed. LOL. Fuuuuunnny. Anyway, back to what I was saying.....
As the players of the mind games continue to play, they will sometimes face the inevitable - a dead end. Imagine if you're playing a sport that requires you to think of your next move in order to score. Now imagine you're playing this sport non-stop, and you can't take too many breaks because you will get stomped on. You have to keep up to keep scoring. Eventually, your ass will run out of everything. You not gonna have a damn thing to offer anymore. "Anything done under the sun has already been done"....duh! All the tricks you've used to score are old. Shit....your ass old! You gonna need to sit your ass down and look around you. Then you'll realize, all the other mind gamers have gone their own way. Some to be old like you and continue with their old fuckeries. Otlhers will eventually stop playing mind games and settle down with love or without love....as long they're not alone, they're ok.
Bottomline, mind games are a waste of time. They will bring you some sexual escapades, some thrills, some drama, some STDs, some abortions, some sleeping/prescription pills, and some more stuff that will eventually wear you out. Mmmmmm....interesting...I don't see anything positive in these games, but yet, we still play the damn thing. Smdh.
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