So I asked her - "would you rather the naked truth or sugar coated truth?" She quickly answered and said "naked truth..." then hesitated, "wait....sugar coated truth from my significant other, and naked truth from my friends." I raised my eyebrows and looked at her as if she wasn't so sure of her answer, and apparently she wasn't. She went on to say, "ok...it depends. For example, asking my honey do i look fat in this dress, I sure don't wanna hear the naked truth, but if its something really serious like something I need to work on, then yes, give it to me raw."
"O yea, raw?...you sure you can handle that?" I said with a smirk....we laughed at my attempt to be flirtatious. Saved by the bell....one of our co-workers asked "what's so funny?" We backtracked and asked the question....others joined the conversation. At the end, the majority preferred the naked truth from their closed friends than a significant other. Their conclusion was that the naked truth hurts more from the one you've given your all to in so many ways....it strikes a chord within you that can cause you to fall apart. In some cases one may shut down or build invisible walls around them for emotional protection, and they become defensive by pointing the finger at each other. But isn't it human nature to get defensive when we feel under attack? So i think whether its coming from a friend or lover, if you feel belittled or judged, you will fight back with some sharp words. Period.
I think, firstly, it all depends on how the naked truth is delivered. Secondly, it also depends on the closeness(or history) you share with that person(friend or lover). The naked truth is the only truth that can help you see things the way they are. Period. Sugar coated truth is something that can be manipulated to make you believe whatever, or make you not see what you need to see. For example, if one day you came to work and you were having a bad hair day, and you've announced it (whether you verbally said it or your facial expression said it all) then I'd leave it alone. But if that day, you came to work and you were trying some new look, and you came in with a new look attitude, but the new look is not working for you. As a friend, I'll let you know, and say "honey, I think I see what you were trying to do, but it didn't quite make it." crack some jokes, and keep it moving. Naturally, the naked truth is sometimes based on the kind of interaction you have with each other. Delivery is key.
Bottomline, the naked truth is best. I'd rather the naked truth vs sugar coated truth. But if you deliver it to me the wrong way, then trust and believe you will hear a whole lot of naked truth about yourself.....LOL! But seriously, the naked truth helps you grow, figure shit out, and become stronger as you digest the truth. Now, if you wanna know all kinds of truth....you on your own buddy. I just want the truth that's gonna help me improve as a person......Period.
Would you rather the naked truth or sugar coated truth?
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